I see and hear the statement, "I want a man, not a boy" more and more each day. What does that mean? Women are the sex that focus on detail and emotion for decision making. Is this a decision based on emotion or detail? If it were to be based on emotion then maybe the "MAN" would be described as a nice person who can make them smile and connect on an emotional level with them, but I have also heard the phrase, " I cannot date him anymore because he is too nice". If the decision were to be based on detail then what detail are women focusing on? Maybe a man with a career, or a man who is tall dark and handsome? Maybe a man who is family oriented, and has goals? I believe the answer will never be able to be figured out based on the fact there is no distinct definition. It is as simple as this. From birth we are boys, then we mature into men. We are not all the same but we are alike. Some of us are successful, and some of us are good looking, but we are all men. Take pride in your manhood and show your feathers. Beat your chest and stand tall. WE ARE MAN!
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true true true! every situation is different, so i think being successful with women comes down to actually being able to CONNECT on some level. again, the common ground and foundation of a relationship is so important. just like a persons life, the early stages are what shapes the person. same is for dating, the early stages forms the relationship. cheers mate
ReplyDeleteDavid! How are things? My friend noticed you starting blogging and this topic was too good to pass up! So hopefully we tied in as much insight as possible :)
ReplyDeleteMost women want a “man” who knows what he’s doing. Take lions for example…you don’t see the lady lions rushing over to the “boy” lion as he second guesses himself before going in for a kill, then trying to be as “nice” as he can to the zebra before killing it. No. The lady lions are looking at the confident “man” lion. He’s full of wisdom. He knows what he wants, he knows what he‘s doing, he’s bold, daring, and he’s going to rip the shit out of the zebra and all of the lady lions can‘t wait to have a piece. We are attracted to strength, both physical and mental. I’m not saying a man can’t have weaknesses, just those that don’t shine above and beyond his strengths. But then you have men and their pride and that’s just a whole separate topic : ) But that’s what most women mean when we say “I want a man, not a boy.” Someone with a backbone, who can stimulate us, protect us, understands how to take charge...
The “I cannot date him anymore because he is too nice” phrase does refer to an emotion. From personal situations, I have felt this many times because the guy was too willing; he was willing to bend over backwards for me (very caring and sweet) but he pretty much smothered the fire with his desperation. It wasn’t balanced. It’s like he was kissing my feet and I just wanted to yell “Get up and be a man!” Be a strong, manly, carry me over your shoulder kind of man…not to the point of being an ass-hole, but every relationship has their own balance. It’s just a matter of finding the give and take.
But think about it, the word “man” just sounds more dominant and compelling compared to “boy”, which sounds like pushover and wimpy. It’s not all that stimulating dating a pushover. And it’s no fun dating someone when the lady has to come up with all of the exciting and adventurous ideas…like I said, we want a man who knows what he’s doing. Most women are “Jane” and we just want to find our Tarzan…who, as far as we know, is a strong man : ) Who would you want, a “girl“ or a “woman“? Which sounds more enticing?
A Man is someone who truly loves his family. Is honest to his wife, takes care of his children, and is able to provide for them.
ReplyDeleteA Man knows how to tie a Double Windsor.
A Man opens doors for ladies.
If a guy "is too nice" for a girl..then it's not meant for them to be together. One day that guy will find a lady who appreciates him!
You are so right on. Love the “Double Windsor” line :) I mean, if he can’t tie a Double Windsor he’s outta here! (Only kidding). But yes, I think a man understands and accepts the time in his life when he knows he’s not the only one he has to take care of.
ReplyDeleteHope all is well Miss Rachel :)